Re: a case of the ex, tri, and other antics.
Topic: my own bachelorette show
10:45 PM, Thursday, May 5th.
Undisclosed location in Gold Coast

My phone: Ring Ring
Me: Hello?
My phone: Hi, it's your ex. I am drunk.(disclamer that really
says - I am going to say whatever I want and then regret it the next
morning)
Me: Uh, Okay.... I just finished dinner with my BOYFRIEND that I'm
going to marry
My phone: Ummm, I love you. I'm sorry I wasn't good enough for you.
Are you sure you are happy?
Me: Like, duh! I don't settle. Oh yeah - you are a great guy, just
not the guy for me
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11:05 PM, Thursday, May 5th.
Undisclosed location on the interstate

My phone: Ring Ring
Me: Hello?
My phone: Like, what's up? - Ex #2.
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Umm, it's raining Ex's.

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Next I should tell you about the allergy I had to my new beau's ex's.
But in a separte email when I have more time.

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so what happened, you might ask?
Mood:  caffeinated
Topic: my own bachelorette show
I broke up with Mike. Left him a message on his voicemail, just for his closure. See how nice I am? I was nice and didn't yell at him or anything, just told him I'm done. I did cite his couch and his E.D. as one of the causes, but not in a mean way.

I then deleted his # out of my cell. I now don't have a way to contact him even if I wanna. Ta-Da! Dear readers, you should be proud.

I tried breaking up with BM but we ended up "discussing it" and I stayed and somehow I ended up taking care of him while he's sick. Um, now I'm not feeling too hot. Got a fever.

I now have deleted all the loser numbers off my cell, including BF. Readership, you have to be very proud of me, because that was very hard. Next step - delete his email. May need someone to pull the trigger on that for me. Nah, I'll do it. Wait, I'll do it now, while I'm in the mood!

Ok, I did it. every single contact is gooooone! Woo hoo!

Statistically, according to people who did research on this stuff, there are fewer good men out there then great women. There is a great chance that I'll never have anyone in my life to love forever. No one to marry. That's fine. I would rather be single then wait for some dude that is not that into me, just hurting myself more and more. Or a weird dude, or a stupid dude. REader audience, please remind me to pull the plug on BM if he does any one bad thing again to me. Thank you. No more assholes or losers.

I feel so... liberated. Stay tuned to this channel for more terrible stories of bad dates... and hopefully some day a very good story... with nothing to complain about.

BM's company party
Mood:  chatty
Topic: my own bachelorette show
Saturday night I went to a stupid holiday company party with BM, and ended up babysitting him after he got totally trashed half way through the night.

It was a hotel party, so I basically managed to get him to his room and get him into bed and he kinda blacked out. I had to get his shoes off for him and everything. Then I went back out and partied with his friends. The crowd and his friends were pretty lame though. Most of the guys were immature jerks and their girlfriends/wives, despite the guys being in their late twenties early thirties, were way too young - most around 21 and really stereotypical. I ended up spending more time with Rocco, a dude from a pretty famous local band that was hired for the party who was bummed out because he just got dumped. And I made a new friend out of one of the only wives there, who was somewhat around my age. So it's not a total wash, but it's all about opportunity cost. I'm going to have very little free time from now on, and I think I'd rather spend it on my friends then on someone who's just OK to date. I missed two friends' bands concerts playing for this. I don't mind being supportive and all, but it's kinda shitty to bring a date that doesn't know anyone at a party, and get smashed? Because then the date is on her own. Which for me is not a problem to get acquainted with new people, but he doesn't know me well enough to assume that, plus jeez, what am I suppose to think about a guy that does that at a work party... And he was rude to me while we were getting ready, and then I end up having to take care of him. I pick real winners! He flew out to costa rica (I had to get him up at 5:30 and on the plane) this morning, and I didn't have the heart to dump him before his vacation. But I'm looking forward to it when we both get back into town. Straw, camel's back. Yeah, it shouldn't have to come down to this, but I guess I feel that I should give people a chance. Less then 2 months wasted, I guess.

wow
Mood:  caffeinated
Topic: my own bachelorette show
ok, i think I have a boyfriend again.

I'm trying to avoid the commitment because apparently I've turned into a complete commitment phobe - thanks, ex's! Ok, we haven't discussed commitment but it's kinda implied with what we are doing. I'm in no rush to be in another relationship though. But hey, I'm open to it. I just don't want to settle, but I am willing to give something a try. And so far, I'm glad I did.

So far, BM has proven to be very good boyfriend material.

1. He is respectful
2. He is hyperintelligent and well rounded
3. He's in great shape and has it together
4. He's very caring and treats me very well
5. He's very tallented ;)
6. He's more assertive with plans and stuff now, which was my biggest problem with him in the beginning, and I didn't have to say anything to fix it. I said I wanted last night to be low key, just see a movie. He managed to figure out movie times, theater, and dinner, and payed for both. Why is this so impressive? Because most men can't manage this simple task.
7. He's attentive and supportive
8. He's easy to talk to and doesn't appear to be harboring secrets and lies like some people
9. He doesn't appear to have baggage

Here's the bad:
1. alergic to cats - greeeeat.

So to all the other suckas, you snooze, you lose.

Saturday's Events
Mood:  a-ok
Topic: my own bachelorette show
MD - after Thursday, I had to text him on Friday just to tell him Ken's (former friend) idea about sending the card to europe. I got back a "ha ha and thanks for a cool date." So, I still had no idea if I'll ever hear from the guy again.

So here's my little rave for the day. He's not doing anything wrong, but I hate waiting to know if someone is into me or not. With him, I simply can't tell. It may be just a physical thing for him, I don't know what his deal is and what he wants. It's frustrating. Especially knowing some stuff about him like that he lied to me about something and won't tell me something else. Bi had an interesting perspective on this. He said this guy has been around the block a few times, he knows what he's doing. He wants to be mysterious and stuff because he knows how women's heads work. I'm seeing other people, alas, but his tactic forces me to think about him more and talk about him with my friends to try and figure it out. And that's exactly what he wants. My problem with this, if Bi's right, is that this is then a game, and I HATE games.

So the good news came when MD actually texted me at 1AM to say hi and tell me he's packing. If the dude didn't play it so cool, I'd've offered him a ride to the airport and stuff. So, since I had enough drinks at the open bar to momentarily impair my judgement, I totally didn't play it cool and I sent him a message back with the offer. He was alegidly already asleep and didn't get my message until the next day (he doesn't want me to see his place because he probably never cleans or he doesn't actually live there). So he texted me back Sunday morning, which included "I'll talk to you soon" - Finally I'm getting some communication out of this guy. So now I know he's not done with me (although I'm not holding my breath because apparently this could just be an expression but not reality). But I still don't know his intentions. He better know them though because alas there are too many people that have no clue.

Which brings me to PA. What a jerk. Texted me yesterday to confirm Sunday plans, and doesn't keep them. I'm so done with him.

Date #2 with MD
Mood:  a-ok
Topic: my own bachelorette show
So today I went on my second date with md. brief summary: he's being shady. I like him, but he's being shady. BTW, he's the 2nd guy I've dated with initials MJD. Weird to recycle that much.

Shady thing #1. He won't tell me his age.

shady thing #2, he lied about owning a condo. I believe he rents. I have my sources.

shady thing #3. He tried to come over to my place. Um, I don't know him that well. He said I can't come over to his place because it's a mess. He made no indication of whether we'll go out again. He leaves Sunday to go to florida for work - this has been verified. Now I have to take everything he says and apply the Heisenberg uncertainty principle to it. Everything that is said may or may not be true, may or may not be believed to be true by the speaker, and may or may not appear true at the time it will be observed.

He's affectionate, he has manners, and he is interesting. We have quite a few interests in common, but the depth is to be explored. What I like about him so far: looks - definitely my "type". voice - nice voice. height - yup, it works. clothing/style - very nice (couple of small notes on that - he knows I like numbers, so he prepared himself for the date by wearing this really cool shirt with a number pattern, but the numbers are so small they look like stripes. He was pretty proud of himself for it too when he pointed it out to me. Also, his jacket, was esseintially the same style jacket that I pointed out to La the day before... and essentially the same one La ended up getting the day after). He has a great smile and the eyes, love the eyes. He has a smokin' body. Why I wanna...(insert the karma sutra). Ok, that's the shallow stuff. Here's the deeper stuff: he's random. he doesn't mind that I'm random. Every thought doesn't have to be finished. He's creative and funny. He's a decent listnener. He's got wide-ranging interests. Some people know nothing and care nothing about a whole body of knowledge, such as art, science, technology, or sports. I think that this is shallow. MD doesn't have that problem at all. He can think and express his thoughts. You can't put this guy in a box. He's not totally closed up - he has shared some random personal statements and history. He's not too full of himself. I think he assumes I googled him. Good assumption Mr. but have you googled me?

The bad: games, appears to be slightly manic, possibly down right now. Can't make normal plans like a normal person and keep them. Maybe he just feels like I'm not interested and doesn't want to get hurt? Doubtfull.

Also he's a dork when it comes to new technology that's out of his field. Like cell phones - txt msg, photos... dunno, it's weird. Note, lack of knowledge is not the same as a lack of interest.

How about this for a perfect date though (minus him butchering the ending - at the end of the date he doesn't give me any indication of whether or not he's interested in seeing me again.)

1. mexican fine arts museum. We were both determined to do at least a drive by, even though we were coming kind of late.

2. bakery in pilsen. We got day of the dead, dia de los muertos bread.

3. nuevo leon in pilsen. md noticed a waitress sliding down the handicapped ramp, it was pretty funny.

3. art galleries and murals in pilsen.

4. ping tom park (where balloons fell on us from the sky and we had to fish them out of the river, and no one else was there at 7 PM on a warm night; For some lady's 40th bday 40 ballons were released from berwyn, and we were suppose to mail the card back with where we found it. instead we should mail it to england, per ken's advice and have it be sent back a month later from there, to perplex the receiving party.) Here's us at Ping Tom, with the ballons and card found in the bottom right corner.

5. Chinatown to get md chocolate fortune cookies and bobba tea - he's never had it and we shared one. We also talked about movies. He wants to see this really scarry one. I'll watch it, but ONLY if we can play sleepover afterwards (what, I need an excuse), I don't do well alone after scarry movies at night. I have an overactive imagination.

6. Osaka gardens. btw, he also has a fascination with the colombian exposition like I do. Yes, La, we went there at night (I have no healthy fear of the dark), and no one attacked us. And this time I found it no problem.

Um and he is sooo hot. And we talked about the weirdest shit that I can't even put here. I don't know what his intentions are. Mr. President of the fraternity and captain of the football team that supposedly didn't date a lot when he was younger - I dunno if I'm falling for it. A lot of deception and games and I don't like either. If I'm lucky, he won't call me again and I won't get any deeper into whatever game he's playing. Maybe he's just psycho.

I hate not knowing what's up. WHAT's UP? Patience is a virtue. I don't have that virtue when it comes to: not knowing if a guy is interested, not knowing if I'm going to get the job. #1 source of stress in my life right now is that I do not have enough patience and the lack of knowledge and the need for instant gratification is overwhelming.

man list update
Mood:  caffeinated
Topic: my own bachelorette show
K from bike shop still hasn't called. Leave it alone or call him?

B and I went out on Monday. Weak pressure, red hair. Nah.

M - not as funny as I thought. Several phone conversations but no date.

P - Sunday date! Yei!

C - is a freak. I'm done there

K - sent me a pic of his ho ho. Done.

K2- different K, he's interesting but conceited - ignoring for now.

Be - just very different from what I'm used to, a very soft personality.

J - blew me off because he was "sick". off the list.

Br- he's neat but may be too anal for me. Need to get back to him. This is tiring.

I still wanna go out with that dude from that band. Even if he's a conceited bastard. I just want to see what's hiding behind that camo.

New guy: MD. went on date on Thursday. Um, so many problems there I don't wanna talk about it. But I wanna see this one again.

BF sucks. I think that should be in ever post.

the MAN list
Mood:  accident prone
Topic: my own bachelorette show
Ok, so here's the list.

at the top of the list is this cute cute guy named Kevin from a certain bike shop. Problem, he hasn't called and it's been a week. Did I strike out?

then there's a very clever guy named Brandon. He has red hair and I don't like the name Brandon.

Then there's Mike. Mike's sooooo funny. Can't wait to go out with him.

Paul - what I like about Paul is that we have an insane amount of things in common. Separated at birth?

Chad - don't know if Chad's on the list. He lives too far and doesn't make it to Chicago enough. He pissed me off a few times already - I think I'm done here. That and he's too tall.

Kent - too desperate, he creeped me out, he's off the list.

Ken - this guy is a true daredevil, but is surprizingly level headed and easy to talk to

Kevin - different Kevin, he's interesting but conceited

Ben - just very different from what I'm used to, a very soft personality.

John - I'm trying hard here. I dunno if I'll dig him, he has some weird quirks to him

Brad - he's neat but may be too anal for me.

What was the name of that guy I met at the club the other night? Doesn't matter, he was 23 and too skinny.

I still wanna go out with that dude from that band. Even if he's a conceited bastard. I just want to see what's hiding behind that camo.

I'm tired and have a big day in a few hours, need to stop blogging and go to sleep.

whoop-tie-do, I must have a knack for this kind of stuff
Mood:  accident prone
Topic: my own bachelorette show
i must have this effect on people. Everyone I date ends up married except for me.

Ok, I'm pretty sure Ted's married or getting there.
Graham and Kevin are MIA, so it don't matter.
Tom's married and should be sending me pictures of his 1st-born child shortly.

That leaves: andy - I don't care enough to find out.

Mike - ok, I dunno what his status is, but he's not dating 's far's I know.

BUT now: Jason, ok we didn't date that long but he's engaged.

And BRAD is now dating someone, although he's not sure if it is serious, but that may be what he tells me.

OK, now I'm happy for all of them and everything, but heck, when's it gonna be my turn? I'm not alone or lonely, but it would be so nice to have someone to share my life with. I'm very lucky to have the best friends and family in the world, and I think everything else is together or getting there. But this one thing is missing. Obviously I'm doing my best to rectify the situation, but I'm beginning to get bitter, and have trouble with attending weddings, and looking at happy couples, especially with children. I don't feel off balance or like I need to find my center, but this is really getting me down. I'm going to go try to go on 10 dates with 10 radically different people in the next 10-15 days, and they all have similar interests. If that don't work, I'm going to take a wee little break. That's called giving up. I'm giving myself till the end of this month, and after that, hopefully I'll have a new job to keep me too busy to even think about dating, and I can stop worrying about it due to idle time on my hands.

Maaan, why'd I have to find out about Jason and Brad on the same freakin day? I guess I should be thankful, get it over with in one foul swoop.

Kevin
Mood:  a-ok
Topic: my own bachelorette show
All things happen for a reason. So I went home to sulk and then I decided to get back on track with my day. The plan was to go get toe clips on my bike and so I did. There was this cute cute guy named Kevin at the bike shop I went to. He was super sweet, had a great smile and eyes and bought me a candy bar. He offered to take me riding with him some time. I am like really dense and I was hoping he was asking me out but I couldn't tell.